Gaslighting: The Emotional Manipulation That Makes You Doubt Yourself
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse and coercive control where a person or group manipulates someone into doubting their own memory, sanity, and perception of reality. This tactic aims to undermine a victim’s self-trust and confidence, often leading to confusion, anxiety, and a sense of isolation, ultimately giving the gaslighter control.
Tactics to Watch For
- Denying events or conversations (“That never happened”)
- Dismissing feelings as irrational (“You’re overreacting”)
- Twisting facts to shift blame
Impact
Gaslighting erodes self-trust and can make you more dependent on the other person’s version of events.
How to Protect Yourself
- Keep written records or notes of incidents.
- Share experiences with trusted friends for perspective.
- Avoid arguments that go in circles denying your reality.
If You’ve Gaslighted Others
- Stop using someone’s emotions or memory against them.
- Validate feelings even when you disagree.
- Commit to truth and accountability.